NEW YORK CITY — If you date online long enough, you end up resorting to lớn nicknames to keep your suitors straight.
In the case of dating blogger Tinderella, a 27-year-old Chelsea resident who's been sharing her romantic travails with a growing audience, there are almost too many lớn danh mục.
There was the "The Princess-Fetish Tinder," a guy who called her "princess" in every other sentence và at one stage gave her a friendly pat on the head.
Then there was "The Boston Tinder," that enigma who facilitated the perfect three-week romance, including requesting that she stop seeing other people, before sending a text saying: "we're too different for either of us to be happy…"
And then there was "The Married Tinder," the guy who used a kém chất lượng Facebook tài khoản and second phone to lớn evade his wife while he wooed her.
Tinderella — a blonde, British native sầu who asked that her name not be used lớn maintain the blog's anonymity — found all of her dates through the popular dating ứng dụng Tinder, which presents users with a potential match's photo lớn & minimal personal details.
She started the blog in January after the drawn-out breakup of a messy three-year relationship.
"I was holding myself accountable for getting out there và moving on from my ex," she said.
The site gets almost 2,000 visitors a day, despite the fact that she only writes about two posts a month.
In each post, she describes her attire for the date (example: "White silk blouse, blaông xã pencil skirt, black heels") & her date's attire (example: "A suit"), the day, time and overall rating of how the date went on a scale of 1-10.
Gauging from emails she received, comments on posts và those who discuss it on social media, Tinderella said that readers range from empathetic single girls khổng lồ men wanting a female perspective sầu. And there are a few older, married readers fascinated by the city's dating scene.
"With a lot of my friends I'm not sure they actually read it but, their boyfriends constantly ask me 'What happen lớn that guy? Why didn't you give sầu hlặng a chance,'" she said.
While the blog is meant for humor, the most popular post is by far the saddest, according khổng lồ Tinderella. "The Boston Tinder" is a New England expat who Tinderella described as "smart & rich but not a finance doubít." It was three weeks of making out in front of impatient cab drivers, midnight walks through Washington Square Park & days full of loved up text messages.
And Tinderella doesn't mind admitting that this one "trampled on
"The general consensus is he freaked out or he had a girlfrikết thúc," said Tinderella, who still seemed thrown by this man's sudden radio silence. "That's the thing when you're coming from Tinder or if it's not a mutual frikết thúc, you really don't know what's going on in their lives."
The case brings up how Tinderella approaches the ethics of blogging about her subjects, who are mostly in the dark about the writing project.
In the blog and in the interview she is careful lớn omit names and other identifiers like what university a date went to lớn or company he works for. She also leaves out sensitive information lượt thích when one guy — "I won't tell you which one," she said — started crying about his ex-girlfriover on the date.
When "The Married Tinder" was recognized by another Tinder user who sent hlặng the blog post about him, he emailed Tinderella và thanked her "for being discreet" with her writing.
Other dates lượt thích the "The Republican" & "The British Tinder" have become committed readers, she said.
Tinderella has laid out other guiding rules for herself including never agreeing khổng lồ a date only for the purpose of writing about it. She only writes about a date once the relationship is over, which is why "The Boston Tinder" was written weeks after it ended and even then it was difficult lớn publish, according to lớn Tinderella.
"I just wanted khổng lồ get it down and also to lớn write about it was my closure — 'OK this is definitely over,'" she said.
Writing the blog has illuminated some interesting truths about the nature of dating in Thành Phố New York City, Tinderella said, especially when compared with dating in her native London.
"I know that I have sầu never dated this much in my life. It's pretty awesome. I have always heard Thành Phố New York is the dating đô thị, but who is to say whether this has been Tinder or living in a đô thị like Thành Phố New York," she said.
"In London, if you were dating someone they would consume all your attention. Here you should just assume that they are dating five sầu other people. It used to annoy me, but now I find myself doing the same thing," she said.
There is also the question of what happens when Tinderella is off the market. She repeatedly states that it's her central goal for every date. Her biggest concern comes from what his reaction might be lớn this public record of her dating life.
"I would hope if it's the right guy," said Tinderella, "he will underst&."